Even When… It’s not my fault
Original price was: R200.00.R160.00Current price is: R160.00.
The story
Lily wakes on Sports Day with a tight, heavy feeling sitting right in the middle of her chest. She hasn’t done anything wrong. But when both Mum and Dad cheer from opposite sides of the field, the questions creep in.
What if it’s my fault? What if I did something to make things go wrong between them?
With Grandma’s gentle help, Lily discovers that the feeling has a name, guilt, and that knowing something and feeling it are different things. The storm between grown-ups was never hers to cause, and never hers to carry.
Warm, quietly powerful, and beautifully illustrated, Even When… It’s not my fault helps children name one of the heaviest feelings that comes with family change, and gently set it down.
What’s inside
The Feelings First Aid Kit
Grandma adds something new to Lily’s kit, a roots cord, a simple tool to hold, squeeze, and release when big feelings arrive.
A coping technique
The squeeze and release technique helps children feel the difference between holding on and letting go, in their hands, their jaw, their whole body.
The roots metaphor
Roots don’t cause storms. They just stay connected and strong. A gentle, visual way to help children understand that their job is to just be themselves.
Reflection questions
Questions to open the conversation between children and the grown-ups they trust, after the story has been shared.
For parents, caregivers and professionals
This book comes with a free companion guide, with guidance on how to use the book, support children through guilt and self-blame, and extend the conversations it opens.
The Even When series
The branches
Even When… I have two homes
Lily can stretch and bear fruit in both homes. For finding yourself when home looks different now.
The roots
Even When… It’s not my fault
Roots don’t cause the storm, they just stay connected and strong. For the guilt children carry that was never theirs.
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The blossoms
Even When… I want us back together
Blossoms are beautiful, and they fall. Some things change, and can still be beautiful. For longing and grief.
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The trunk
Even When… The rules are different
The trunk holds firm as the tree grows and adapts. For learning to bend without breaking.
Coming soon
The fruit
Even When… Grown-ups forget
Fruit grows even when no one is watching. You don’t need to be seen to matter. For knowing your own worth.
Coming soon
The leaves
Even When… We feel things differently
Leaves move in different directions when the wind blows, but they all belong to the same tree. For empathy and sibling dynamics.
Coming soon
R160.00